Underworld Personals

It should be apparent that the combination of a young Russian woman and older western men is fraught with danger. Why would a young woman from any culture prefer an older man unless her motives were suspicious? While it is certainly a question to keep in the forefront of your mind, on occasion they have perfectly legitimate reasons for their preference. How can you tell?

Before you start thinking about looking for a young Russian woman, you should look at the reasons why you are looking for one yourself. Are your motives pure or are you just interested in finding sex and can’t find it at home? If that’s the reason, you’re headed for a fall. Russian girls are no “easier” than Western girls in any sense of the words. They are just as smart as you are, if not smarter, so ultimately, the loser is likely to be you, both sexually and financially.

Or you may be an older man who is more interested in a long term, mutually caring relationship with a Russian woman and her age is only a secondary consideration. In that case, you may find that, within reason, a younger woman may genuinely prefer the company of older men.

One reason why they may prefer an older man is that they are looking for fidelity in a relationship. Their past experience has made them wary of younger men who have been too immature to commit to a relationship.

An older man’s attractiveness to young women often lies in his ability to offer them a higher degree of financial stability than young men can. This does not necessarily equate with their being “gold diggers” looking for a “sugar daddy” to take care of them. If they are sincere and emotionally mature, they may understand that any relationship involves mutual duties and responsibilities, including marital fidelity.

We in the West are accustomed to the notion of romantic love being the basis of a lasting relationship. The facts fly in the face of this, though. Romantic love fades, no matter how passionate it is in the beginning. Other cultures have traditions of arranged marriages. While this sounds cold, these relationships often develop into long term, loving relationships.

A young Russian woman and older western men turn to online dating sites and introduction agencies for a suitable mate. The service you choose will be the key to your success or failure. If you go to a site that has a large number of active subscribers from a variety of backgrounds, you are on the right track. If, however, you go to a site that features scantily clad young women “longing” for an older man just like you, don’t waste your time.

Mark De Schutter is the webmaster of a Russian dating site called “Charming Russian Brides”. This is an online dating service for men who wish to get in contact with Russian ladies who are interested about marriage to foreign men.

What qualities would make a Russian women a perfect wife for a Western men? Taking a look at a few of the things that each of them desire in a mate, sheds some light on this question:

In the States, many men secretly wish to find a nice, traditional woman’s woman – to marry, take care of, spoil, and spend their lives with. Aside from the normal need for companionship, men love to treat the right girl like the delicate flower and royalty she is. They yearn for a woman who looks up to them in every way, stands by them through good and bad – and is confident when things go wrong, her man will somehow make it right. Finding a woman who needs only her man to teach her what she doesn’t yet know, and treats his knowledge as scripture, would make that man feel he’s realized his purpose in life. Every man needs someone to make him feel the hero. Someone who shows him he is loved, respected and admired for his physical strength, his intelligent mind, and his nature in understanding life’s little complexities. The woman who shows him that – is all he really needs.

Many Russian women are looking for that kind of prince to rescue her. A hero she can look up to – who sweeps her off her feet, making everything alright with the world. Because they’re born into traditional roles, these women believe only a man can love and protect his woman – and give her what she requires in life. He’ll take care of her by working hard to give her a solid house, delicious food, elegant clothes, children – and any other luxury she may desire.

This woman’s job is a simple, and noble, labor of love. To make sure that she has a good dinner on the table, and a drink in her hand for her hero as she smilingly welcomes him at the door each evening, is just common sense. As is teaching her children to respect and greet with love, the man who takes such good care of them. When alone with him, she can offer her support in any way he sees fit – lending her ear so he can unleash the days frustrations, or in another, more intimate way, later in private.

Threat of their birthright becoming fading to nothing, makes many men feel unstable about their ability to take care of a wife and family these days – thanks in part to the equality battles that have been raging on between the genders for some decades. To be fair, the modern American woman can seem a slightly less-feminine, and understandably confusing, creature to the males who grew believing in certain stereotypes.

The perfect woman to many men, whether they admit it or not, is one with culture, charm, grace and intelligence – who also happens to be satisfied in her role as a woman, – and enjoys the details of that role. In addition, this woman would also totally agree that there is no place in a man’s world where it’s proper for a woman to try to fit in. Russian women, being fair of face and figure – and known to defer to their men – fit the role of that dream girl almost to a “T”. It may be that American men longing for this kind of traditional life with a traditional woman, may have found it after all, with these exotic ladies. These days a woman who actually chooses this traditional type of role to feel fulfilled, is almost unheard of. Most people in the world don’t respect that there are good reasons for differences between the sexes. Maybe because of her upbringing, this girl instinctively knows not to cross boundaries not meant for her.

When looking for her prince, it’s all a matter of the boy-girl equation adding up that makes sense to this woman. To her, the role she plays so well is the natural one she was born for. To step outside the boundaries, and try to take on anything in the male arena, would be both unnatural and futile for her, as well.

It’s clear there are some valid reasons that make a Russian women a perfect wife for a western men – and based on the similar qualities both desire in a mate, the strongest one might be that both appear to be searching for the other.

Mark De Schutter is the owner of a Russian dating site called “Russian Dating Live”. This is a web dating service for men who wish to get in contact with Russian ladies who are serious about marriage to foreign men.