Posts Tagged ‘friends’

Show You Care By Listening

Sunday, February 14th, 2010

There is a familiar old saying that goes “Talking is sharing, but listening is caring.” You probably have heard this saying a few different times in your life, I know I have. I don’t know where the saying originated from, but it is very accurate.

In one of the devotionals that I sent out to my subscriber list I wrote about a rough time in my life that I was going through and how God’s Word had been a great comfort to me. When I wrote that devotional I had no idea that I would get such a warm response from readers. I had calls from friends and emails from readers that I don’t even know personally. Many of them told me that they were there for me if I wanted to talk to someone.

The fact that these people were willing to take the time to write an encouraging note, or even to call, meant so much to me. It should me that they were listening and that they cared about me. Those facts were obvious and it had a big impact on how I was feeling.

Our lives are crazy, always going straight from one thing to the next with little time to think or relax in between. In these busy times in which we live, many of us are not as committed to listening as we should be. It’s easy for us to be like this, but making some changes in our habits can make a big impact for others.

When you listen to someone else it shows that you care and that you value them. You show that you care enough to give them your time and attention, and that can mean a lot. Listening helps to build stronger, deeper relationships, and it brings two people closer together. By listening to others we can show them God’s love.

Throughout the four Gospels we read stories of Jesus listening to people. In most cases these are average, ordinary people that wouldn’t get the attention of religious leaders of that day. In other cases they were prominent people, like Nicodemus. Nicodemus was a Jewish leader that talked to Jesus about the miracles He was performing and His teaching of the people.

John 4 records that just a short time later, Jesus sat in a foreign country and listened to a sinful woman who came to draw water at the well where He rested. Religion, gender, social position, and moral character didn’t matter to Jesus. He listened and He cared. He is the role model we are to follow.

Thank you, dear friends, for your care and concern. I want to let you know that my unpleasant event was resolved as well as it could be, and there has been reconciliation. Thanks for caring! Thanks for listening!

God, I thank You for the wonderful friends that you have placed in my life. I ask that you would help me to be a good listener and to show the love that these friends have shown to me during my difficult times.

Ann Shorb is a counselor and the founder of CCES in Hanover, PA. They provide a variety of services including premarital counseling, marriage counseling, family counseling and much more.

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Get Back With Your Ex Girlfriend Fast

Sunday, February 7th, 2010

If you’re inquiring how you can get back with your ex girlfriend, the first thing that you have to realize is this is an absolutely fragile spot. Your feelings may be hurt, and her feelings may also be hurt – And it is crucial that you are cautious about what you’re doing therefore, otherwise feelings may be bruised even harder.

Here are the circumstances that you need to arrive at when it comes to working out out how to get back with your ex girlfriend.

1 – First of all, what was it that you did in order to cause the split up? Girls do not break up with guys totally out of the blue, so there is probably a really good rationality behind the action even if you are not instantly aware of what it is. The 1st step in this process has to be to figure out what went awry, whether or not it could have been prevented, and how can you can repair it now that you know what it is.

2 – If the break up with your ex girl was entirely your fault, then the first thing that you need to do to help rekindle matters is to let your ex girlfriend know that you recognize what happened, you recognize that it was your fault, and that you are repentant for your actions and the unintended results.

3 – You should continue to socialize with other people, even though you are trying to court your ex again. Just because you and your ex are not in contact right now, that does not mean that you need to cut off yourself off from the rest of humanity. You should go out with other girls, or at least go out and have some fun with your acquaintances. It may even work to your advantage for you to cause some jealousy in your ex partner if you really do want to get them back.

4 – Display to your ex that you have moved on, but you also need to show her that you still care about her. This is the perfect way to in time get her back. Allow her know that you have not completely moved on, and that you still have feelings for her, and this will make you seem more mature to her, and more in demand as well.

5 – in the last analysis, it is crucial that you work rigorously to become friends with your ex again. This will establish trust, and will help to make you closer to one another.

Afterward, you should ask her why you broke up in the first place, but be nonchalant about it rather than appearing hopeless. She will either admit that it was a mistake that the two of you broke up, or she will let you know that the break up was for the best. Once you have an answer, you can go on from there.

These are just the beginning steps in winning your Ex back. They are the first steps I abided by when I lost the love of my life. And candidly these aren’t my innovational ideas. I turned to T ‘Dub’ Jackson when I had no idea of how to get my true love back.

T ‘Dub’ authored a simple, down to earth step by step plan called “The Magic Of Making Up”. And you know, it worked like magic for us. Now we are more in love than ever.

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Art Contemporary And Your Friends

Saturday, February 6th, 2010

Are you just being polite when you tell your friend, the artist, that his or her artwork is good? Similarly, if your friends all tell you that your art contemporary is really cool, are they simply being nice?

It’s all about the psychology. I failed miserably as an artist. My friends used to tell me that my work wasn’t even good, but it wasn’t that bad! I used to draw items laid out in front of me and turn them into black chunky masses of charcoal within ten minutes, so I knew my peers were lying. It was all in their initial reactions and the way they said it.

I used to struggle with charcoal for hours on end whilst trying to etch my imagination onto a 36″ x 48″ blank canvas and end up with a hilarious final product. Why was it hilarious? Because my friends used to walk into my dorm room and fall over themselves in rip-roaring fits of uncontrollable laughter! Don’t get me wrong, I had and have some great friends, and I have never aspired to be the next art contemporary hero because, quite simply, I’ve never been any good at it. I had to channel talents in other directions, to put it bluntly. But it’s always a telltale sign that a work of art is not the best if it gets laughed hysterically at upon first sight!

Just as obvious as laughing, a long pause can say it all. If it takes more than two seconds between seeing an art contemporary piece and saying, “Yeah, that’s really cool,” then the artwork in question probably stinks. Whether it’s yours or your friends, somebody is going to have to learn to lie a bit better because feelings are going to get shot down!

Art contemporary is for everybody, and any form of self-expression in the current day is art contemporary. However, some things just don’t make the grade on any level and nobody can really dispute that, can they? It isn’t a problem, my art was like that! Just remember that an artist shouldn’t set out to please anybody with his or her work if it is true art contemporary, because it is all about what is inside the artist’s mind. I think that producing work for someone else to buy takes away from the quality of the art, but maybe that’s just me! All artists need to make a living, right?

ArtTraffic.co.uk is home to the best art contemporary on the internet. Selling at galleries and museums is on the way out and online art sales, just like online everything else, are coming in. Art Traffic is at the centre. www.arttraffic.co.uk showcases the best art contemporary on offer, and Art Traffic boasts any form of art contemporary you can think of. So don’t fear, even if your friends don’t like your work, or if you’re you don’t like what your friends create, others probably will do. Get involved at Art Traffic.

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Tips To Maintain Friendship With An Ex

Tuesday, February 2nd, 2010

Many people may find it very difficult to break up with their partners when they want to leave them. Although they really want to break their relationships, they do not want to turn their partners into enemies. This is why breaking up with partners becomes so challenging. In fact, maintaining your friendship after a breakup is much easier than you think.

The relationship is more than mere love or hatred, there is friendship. Your partner is also a friend when you two were having a romance. When the relationship ends, it is not a must that the friendship will end. However, it would be quite challenging to maintain the friendly relationship.

Here are some useful tips about remaining friends with your ex after a breakup.

Remember not to lose your temper. You should be extremely careful when giving every little reaction during the breakup process. Anger is not a good choice as it can make you do something regretful. With anger, you will probably say something that you do not really mean it.

You should be calm even if something hurtful happens. Your ex will certainly respect you if you are able to behave like this.

Do not say any negative thing about your ex. You should also be careful when saying things about your ex after breaking up. The distance between you and your ex will be increased if you tell others who care the negative things about your ex. Although you are really hurt and are greatly disappointed by your ex, you must pay attention to what you say.

Learn to be friends with no stings attached. You may desire some romantic suggestions from your ex after being friends. However, you should control yourself not to have these expectations from your ex in the friendship. If you have some romantic thoughts, you may even worsen the friendship between you and your ex.

Don’t give any conditions to your ex when he/she agrees being friends with you. If you can maintain friendship with your ex without any conditions, you will discover that things later on will happen according to what you desire. Sometimes you may realize that your ex is better to be your friend rather than your lover.

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Two Are Better Than One

Saturday, January 9th, 2010

We were created by God to have a relationship with Him and with others. The Bible clearly states that we have a need for strong and healthy relationships, and in Ecclesiastes Solomon writes about some of the wonderful benefits of having meaningful relationships with others.

In this chapter Solomon talks about three specific ways that you will benefit from having true friends.

First, a true friend will help you to get up after a fall. A friend will scoop you up, take away some of the burden, and get you back to your feet.

Second, a friend or loved one will help to warm you in the cold by staying close by.

Third, when another person puts you in danger a true friend will help protect and defend you.

The three examples provided by Solomon include problems the are self-induced, difficulties that result from natural forces that are beyond our control, and situations that are a result of poor decisions by others. Really, I can’t imagine any problem that we could face that wouldn’t fit into one of these areas.

As Solomon points out, regardless of the type of problem, a true friend or companion will be there to help during the struggle. Interestingly, after writing about these wonderful benefits, he says three are better than two!

So go ahead. Take the risk. Find others that you can connect with through your local church, small groups, or one on one interaction. Don’t let the fear of past hurts hold you back. Learn to find safe people and develop healthy bonds. Don’t miss out on the blessing of relationships. It’s one of God’s greatest gifts to you!

Father, I am grateful for the wonderful friends that are a blessing to me. I pray that you would help me to be a true and genuine friend to others.

Dr. Ann Shorb is a counselor with CCES in southern PA. CCES offers Christian Marital Counseling, Christian Premarital Counseling, and help for a number of other issues.

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Feng Shui And Relationship

Sunday, November 1st, 2009

How frequently have we found ourselves getting into small arguments? Things were fine one moment and everything simpy became haywire the next. And you just haven’t a clue! Clearly, the ancient Chinese art of feng shui might simply have the answer. According to this thousand year old science, our lives are in-sync with our environment. This might just sound fine but then it takes one step further in giving resolutions and answers.

Back to our earlier query. Knowingly or unknowingly, we do feng shui our house. Other than adorning our homes, the decorations that we do such as placing pots of live plants and lights have their influence, feng shui wise.

Why is this so? Once more, according to feng shui philosophy, every thing is force and these forces are basically categorized into eight kinds. This is rather clear whenever we feel heat and cold. It takes a step further in theorizing that these eight force patterns interact with each one and suitable influence our lives!

What has all these got to do with the quality of our relationship? It does. For example, too many lights in our bedroom may be one. The glare and heat from the lights would descend as heat or more specifically the characteristic of fire. You may think that this would ‘fire’ up our enthusiasm but it could also fire up our range too. The feng shui master,of course, may take this into importance but what he would be looking for would really be the influence of such lights on the hidden force that was there when the property was occupied. disregarding the difficulties, we do actually need to be cautious with how we plan our design our lighting, place the fish tank and not stop thinking about the furniture. Everything is a matter of arrangement.

These all sound kind of imposing, don’t they? The rule is that too much of anything to the point of being a nuisance is not suggested.

Jason Myers is a professional writer and he writes mostly about relationship advice news. He’s also interested in religion informations.

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Unlisted Numbers: Find Anyone With Unlisted Reverse Phone Search

Saturday, October 31st, 2009

The reverse telephone directories allows you to locate anyone with a land line phone number. The question many people want to know is rather the same service applies to users of unlisted cell phone numbers. The good is news is yes, there is a service that can also locate a person with an unlisted phone number.

Fortunately there are ways to locate someone with the use of their cell phone number. This cell phone search is more than just a directory of names and numbers, it is a database full of valuable information.

In the past, with search by name in the white pages you could find a persons address. Nowadays you can do a search by phone number instead of name and receive a lot more information than that.

Being able to locate someone by home number has been around for quite some time. The new technology has made it possible to find people’s address, criminal history, and background information with the use of a cell phone or unlisted number.

One of the chief rewards of being able search by cell phone numbers is the capability to discover people you do not know.

Why Would You Feel The Need To Look-up A Stranger?

One reason is the power of knowledge. Knowing who is behind disturbing or unwelcome phone calls gives you a wealth of information to send to the proper authorities.

Another reason is the ability to locate old friends, relatives, or an ex lover when I you have is an old phone bill. Instead of not having a clue who the numbers belong to, you can get unlimited information for a one time fee with services like the Reverse Phone Detective.

Having a reverse phone information bank membership is comparable to having your own personal private investigator. The main distinction is that you will not have to pay the towering cost that comes along with that service.

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Online People Finder USA Reliable Provider

Thursday, September 3rd, 2009

USA People Search has come a long way. We have much more at our disposal than our parents did in their time. Advancement in technology and modernization in general, the many ways of finding people today are fast, simple and convenient. It is so widespread that people search can now mean many things, from looking for a childhood buddy to surveying to fill a position vacancy at work and many other undertakings in between.

With people getting increasingly mobile, it’s hard to keep tabs of folks around us. We often find ourselves looking to reach someone we know only to realize that they cannot be located. As mentioned, searching people based on a specific set of criteria but with whom we have no previous acquaintance is also common practice. All this would have been quite a task in the old days, not to mention the financial costs entailed. Nowadays, it’s no big deal!

Before the advent of IT and Internet, running a People Finder USA generally meant newspapers, public notices and perhaps some radio and TV. Private investigators were also utilized. They were classified as premium services, and priced that way for sure. Today, the majority of USA People Search activities are conducted online via the internet in a variety of options. Government and commercial websites, sponsored links, blogs and social networks are typical joints.

The various online options offer different levels of fidelity. To that effect, they generally serve their purpose. As can be expected, paid People Finder USA service providers are generally regarded as the ultimate version. The others are more suitable for lesser needs and cursory scans to surface prospective profiles. Having that said, they could be adequate on their own and financial expenditure is thus avoided. As such, starting out with them is a savvy approach. But then, it’s a different story if time is of the essence and the pocket is deep.

Search the term USA People Finder on any of the major search engines and youll get hundreds of thousands of results in a fraction of a second. Its a lucrative but highly competitive business and thats a good thing for consumers who are looking to find people in USA. Giant databases and extensive nationwide networks are the order of the day. Along with locating the whereabouts of people, they also provide their public records and other pertinent information.

On the other hand, you may be the one people are looking to find. Its easy to check and if indeed someone is trying to get in touch with you, you wont be surprised. You can check the people who are checking you prior to responding or ignoring, without alerting the other party as all this will be done discreetly. If an unwelcomed contact is on your tail, you would get the heads-up and be able to take the necessary action in good time. Then again, it could also be something prospective.

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Making Up and Getting Back Together

Sunday, August 30th, 2009

You might be searching for possible ways of making up with an ex if you have broken up recently. This is totally normal and appropriate in some situations. Getting started can sometimes be tough though.

Most adults have experienced the pain of breaking up with a partner. One approach some people take is playing the role of a victim, but this is really quite useless. Forget about considering this as an option and commit yourself to either getting over the relationship or doing what it takes to get the relationship back.

There are certain steps you should follow if you want to get back with your ex. They probably still have some pretty strong feelings for you just based on your history together. If both partners are willing, many relationships can be saved.

Knowing exactly what caused the break up in the first place is the number one requirement if you are going to get your boyfriend or girlfriend back. Obviously, doing the same things that broke the two of you up will not help to get you back together. You can’t change the mistakes you made in the past, but you can learn from them.

Saying that the relationship was not working is not specific enough. You must consider whether a single even caused the split or if a series of behaviors made your ex lose interest in you. You should focus on yourself at this point because pointing out the faults of the other person will definitely not win them back.

After you have figured out what went bad in your relationship, take a look at yourself from the point of view of your ex. Even if the pain is great, you must avoid taking the victim role. You may be surprised at how inclined you are to take on that part. Going back to a relationship as the “weak one” who needs saving is not a good idea. Let your ex know that you still have feelings for them, but that you are strong and doing just fine on your own. Strength and confidence is much more appealing than weakness.

If you think your relationship is worth giving another chance, do not fall for the temptation to use jealousy as a weapon. It will backfire on you and spell the permanent end of your relationship. Likewise, revenge should never be considered either if your goal is making up with an ex.

Show your ex that you are more self confident than ever and they might be motivated to give your relationship another chance. Let them see your strength and get them wondering about what they might be missing. Be friendly, but play slightly hard to get. If there is a chance of making up with your ex, this strategy will allow you to come back to the relationship in a position of strength and could even make your ex see you in a new light.

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Dating and Making Friends For Asians

Thursday, July 30th, 2009

Asians are a smashing band of masses. Representing Indians myself, I am competent to gossip on the nature of my fellow Indians and the way we think. Broadly talking, Indians are rather timid. Asians don’t blend with other people and normally maintain to themselves. They tend to stay amongst themselves since they are merely too timid and nothing more.

When Indians get out of their respective areas either for employment or training they frequently get unsocial. They frequently have not much to do in their free time and experience depression. In addition, if they happen to be in a land where there are no or hardly any Asians, so they find themselves in a awkward state of affairs and difficult to get over their lonesomeness.

Nonetheless, there are a few strategies that can be applied to overcome this issue of loneliness and lack of friends. This could either be making some friends to hang out with or get a dating partner. These are some ways you can apply.

Yoga is extremely popular in foreign countries outside its original places. Yoga is now accepted to have health benefits hence it has become popular is many lands. Therefore, in most countries and places of the world, there would be yoga groups and classes. First thing they should do it join that class. Not they will get health benefits, this can help them get over the boredom and meet some people along the way. They probably know about yoga than will therefore be good at it. This will help them further to make friends.

Another great process is to start attending the sports club. At that place you could come across members of the opposite sex and had better take the chance to chat to them. Bit by bit, you will not be an alien to the gymnasium but a co-sportsperson. If they facilitate sports, you ought to join it. This way you should be able to come across and make acquaintances of the identical and even opposite sex.

A good piece of advice is not too be too pushy. Sometimes we as Indians can get carried away and try to force our friends, acquaintances and other to have cup of tea even if they don’t want to. If a potential friend says no for something, they mean it.

In addition, they shouldn’t don’t flirt too much. This can actually hamper their chances. Lastly, try not to show desperate situation. Over time making friends will be a breeze.

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