Going through a break up is a horrible emotional experience. If you have ever heard the song “Need You Now” by Lady Antebellum, if you haven’t I suggest giving it a listen, it’s a fantastic song. In the song the characters are going through all the pain of a break up and making a lot of mistakes.
One of the lines in the song states: “It’s a quarter after one, I’m all alone and I need you now. Said I wouldn’t call but I lost all control and I need you now.” Mistake number 1, desperate dialing!
The other line I find interesting is: “It’s a quarter after one, I’m a little drunk and I need you now.” Drunk dialing is even worse. The other mistake that is often made is texting the ex, and texting and more texting. You become what is called a Text Terrorist.
What should you do to get your ex back?
Ask yourself one thing and be honest to yourself. Do I really want my ex back? Look deep inside to make sure the love for your ex is really there and this is not just a reaction to the loneliness.
If you answered with a confident, yes I want my ex back! Then there is a process to follow.
You Will Not Want To Do What Is Expected
What ever you do, do not be predictable. You want to keep the ex wondering and make them earn their way back into your good graces.
What can you do to keep from doing what is expected? Put an end to those daily habits. Chances are doing the same ol’ same ol’ is what got you here in the first place. It’s time to add something fresh and exciting to your routine.
Make Sure You Have Relationship Goals
If a couple is “apart” they can still be responsible and set goals. What’s important when trying to get your ex back is setting goals. They should be set with different degrees of closeness and affection in mind and then commit to achieving those goals.
Here is a list of goals you will want to consider: reaching emotional milestones, making physical changes and being able to control your temper to start with. It will be up to you to choose the type of goals that pertain to your relationship.
Be Accountable For Both The Successes And The Failures
Accountability is something that is in surprisingly short supply lately. Be accountable to yourself for failing to meet goals. At the same time you should also reward yourself for the goals you do achieve.
Two great motivators are reward and punishment. Use them to your advantage. Here are some rewards you might consider: a night on the town with friends, a new hair style, or a new video game. Try to make sure you are doing things that will help you to have an active lifestyle. You don’t want to do things that make existing problems worse by creating a health issue.
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