We got to the point of nearly calling off the wedding when my fiance wanted to go for couples counseling. He really wanted to go and I just really did not. This put an even greater strain on an already volatile situation.
It isn’t uncommon for one party to be inclined to go for help and the other to resist. The reason for this is a simple one. There is a deep concern inside some people, to keep their private life private. This can pose a problem when trouble in your “private” relationship might need some outside intervention.
It might be your nature to deal with things privately, between you, and family, or whomever you trust. But this is not always a good method for long term results. I feel that if you have gotten this far into this article, then maybe it is time to consider that you might need a professional to talk to about your private matters.
Please don’t feel like there is anything wrong with you for realizing that this is an area you need help. Rather, give yourself a pat on the back for being real and truthful with the situation at hand and know that there are others out there facing the same issues. And there is also tons of help.
Since going out of my shell and getting the help we needed, I found all my friends from the church I go to and my relatives have gone through many of the same things. I also found that I didn’t have to hide my troubles because it might look bad for Jesus. Christians go through just as much garbage as any other person.
They might seem to have a handle on everything, but generally, if they are real, they are just walking by faith, believing that God will help them work everything out. If you are having difficulties with your relationship, get with a couple’s counselor and seek good sound advice.
It is my recommendation for Godly counselors to take on your relationship issue, because there is a strong motivation for them to keep you together. The word of God is against division and divorce. This counselor may try more to help you two understand your purpose for being together and offer good guidance and practical ways to make your bitter situation turn sweet. Our church offers free couples counsel, but some charge because this will be the person’s life ministry.
If you are not a Christian person, then you will still benefit from a church counselor. If you feel compelled to resist that type of couples counseling; then you might want to ask yourself why. If you come up with no truly good reason, then go. But in an effort to do something, please, take the advice of someone who knows, and go to someone, the phone book is full of good counselors who are qualified to help you and your mate. Pick up the telephone today and get started on the road to reconciliation, you will be glad you did.
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